One of my son's came home from school today upset because he had a "friend" who got mad at him and started saying ugly things. When that wasn't getting the response he wanted he told my son that I was "fat".
I didn't know what to say to my son. It hurts me that I am overweight and it make it worse to know I am hurting and embarrassing my kids as well.
I know we each see something we don't like when we look in the mirror. Sometime you can do something to change those things and sometimes you can't. So what about when you have tried time and time again to fix the thing that you are supposed to be able to do something about and you have reached a point where you are so discouraged that you can't even seem to find the strength to try any more?
This is one of those moments when I just want to cry, but I wont. I will fight the urge. I will feel that pain in my throat that happens when you are fighting back the tears. I will remind myself that I am more than a number on a scale... nope, didn't work. Got to find some tissue.
Monday, March 24, 2008
What makes a Mom a "Bad Mom"?
Hello again! This is not what I was going to blog about. I have several different things I have been meaning to hop on and say but today this is what is trying to crowd my thoughts so I figure I will just get it out of the way and write my other thoughts later.
So what makes a Mom a "Bad Mom"? The news has had a lot of stories over the last several years of "Bad Moms". Some of them deserved the title and I'm not sure others did. For example, the mother (I can't remember her name) who was being prosecuted because she left her child in a car for about two minutes while she was standing near by (I think the article I read said she was less than 30 ft away from the car). Now while I don't think it is a good idea to leave your child in a car unattended, I will confess I have done it a few times when I needed to run back in the house and get something or situations similar to that.
I guess what really bugged me about her whole story was that she was there to help her other daughter and a friend who had worked very hard to save up money to donate to the Salvation army deliver the donation. Wow, what a terrible person! Come on people, it was raining and the little girl had fallen asleep on the trip over to the Wal-Mart to deliver the money. The mother pulled the car up to the curb (It bugs me that people do that too, but I am trying to look beyond that right now because I feel there is a bigger issue to tackle) and since the baby was sleeping and they were not going into the store she got the two other girls out and locked the door. Walked thirty feet away and took a few pictures while the girls dropped their hard earned money into the donation bucket. She then heads back to the car only to be stopped by a female officer of some kind (I don't recall what kind of an officer she was) and told she could not get back in the car. The officer then proceeded to ask her a lot of questions and the mother began to get concerned so she called her husband to ask what she should do about the situation. Her husband said, "Don't say anything else until I get there." So following the advice of her husband who was trying to look out for her she stopped answering the questions and did not say anything else. The officer saw the lack of answers as a sign of guilt and by the time the husband arrived the police had handcuffed the wife and were taking her into custody.
Now, I want to be clear, I think the mother made some mistakes and I think the officer made some mistakes but the biggest mistake (in my humble little opinion) was that the DA had no more sense than to continue to try and take this case to trial. Eventually it was dropped but the trauma that it caused this family was ridiculous. Whether it was handled the best way or not, all she was trying to do was take her daughter and a friend to donate some money to a cause. I have seen with my own eyes mothers that have done things a lot worse. Instead of getting the people we should be getting we are wasting time on "Bad Moms" like this poor woman. This thing just go WAY out of hand.
A Mother is a human being and as such we are prone to make mistakes at times. As I right this I can think of many things I have done as a mom that I would love the chance to go back and do differently. However, it does not work like that. We learn as we go and hope we are doing the right thing. All we can do is pray for our children and care for them as best we can. We will make mistakes along the way but hang in there because making a mistake does not make you a "Bad Mom" it just means you are human.
So what makes a Mom a "Bad Mom"? The news has had a lot of stories over the last several years of "Bad Moms". Some of them deserved the title and I'm not sure others did. For example, the mother (I can't remember her name) who was being prosecuted because she left her child in a car for about two minutes while she was standing near by (I think the article I read said she was less than 30 ft away from the car). Now while I don't think it is a good idea to leave your child in a car unattended, I will confess I have done it a few times when I needed to run back in the house and get something or situations similar to that.
I guess what really bugged me about her whole story was that she was there to help her other daughter and a friend who had worked very hard to save up money to donate to the Salvation army deliver the donation. Wow, what a terrible person! Come on people, it was raining and the little girl had fallen asleep on the trip over to the Wal-Mart to deliver the money. The mother pulled the car up to the curb (It bugs me that people do that too, but I am trying to look beyond that right now because I feel there is a bigger issue to tackle) and since the baby was sleeping and they were not going into the store she got the two other girls out and locked the door. Walked thirty feet away and took a few pictures while the girls dropped their hard earned money into the donation bucket. She then heads back to the car only to be stopped by a female officer of some kind (I don't recall what kind of an officer she was) and told she could not get back in the car. The officer then proceeded to ask her a lot of questions and the mother began to get concerned so she called her husband to ask what she should do about the situation. Her husband said, "Don't say anything else until I get there." So following the advice of her husband who was trying to look out for her she stopped answering the questions and did not say anything else. The officer saw the lack of answers as a sign of guilt and by the time the husband arrived the police had handcuffed the wife and were taking her into custody.
Now, I want to be clear, I think the mother made some mistakes and I think the officer made some mistakes but the biggest mistake (in my humble little opinion) was that the DA had no more sense than to continue to try and take this case to trial. Eventually it was dropped but the trauma that it caused this family was ridiculous. Whether it was handled the best way or not, all she was trying to do was take her daughter and a friend to donate some money to a cause. I have seen with my own eyes mothers that have done things a lot worse. Instead of getting the people we should be getting we are wasting time on "Bad Moms" like this poor woman. This thing just go WAY out of hand.
A Mother is a human being and as such we are prone to make mistakes at times. As I right this I can think of many things I have done as a mom that I would love the chance to go back and do differently. However, it does not work like that. We learn as we go and hope we are doing the right thing. All we can do is pray for our children and care for them as best we can. We will make mistakes along the way but hang in there because making a mistake does not make you a "Bad Mom" it just means you are human.
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
Responsibility stinks! :P
After much counsel from a good friend and fellow Blogger I thought it best to delete my first blog. I know it is easy to get caught up in writing out what you are thinking and feeling, but people you don't think about reading it may one day come across it, so... It will be deleted soon after I finish this post.
Responsibility really does stink some times though! I mean, here I am having just finished up a second Job I had gotten over the Christmas holiday season. They needed me to stay on till a certain job was finished and I did, but man was I tired. I had not had a day off since Christmas day because if I wasn't at Chickfila I was working the other job. Honestly I don't count Christmas as a day off because we have so much traveling we do. Then there is Sunday, which I have off each week (thankfully) but I don't consider Sunday a day off either. So anyway, Back to responsibility. I have now finished the second job and I am off tomorrow from Chickfila. Do I get to sleep in (which I don't get to do anymore)? NOOO, I have to wake up and get the kids off to school. Responsibility. Do I get to lay around all day and watch tv and sleep all day? NOOO, because I have to clean up my nasty house AND do the grocery shopping. Responsibility. I have far to many things to do. Being responsible stinks! :oP
I say we all rebel and take tomorrow off to do nothing!!! Who's with me? (This is were I hear the crickets chirping.)
Responsibility really does stink some times though! I mean, here I am having just finished up a second Job I had gotten over the Christmas holiday season. They needed me to stay on till a certain job was finished and I did, but man was I tired. I had not had a day off since Christmas day because if I wasn't at Chickfila I was working the other job. Honestly I don't count Christmas as a day off because we have so much traveling we do. Then there is Sunday, which I have off each week (thankfully) but I don't consider Sunday a day off either. So anyway, Back to responsibility. I have now finished the second job and I am off tomorrow from Chickfila. Do I get to sleep in (which I don't get to do anymore)? NOOO, I have to wake up and get the kids off to school. Responsibility. Do I get to lay around all day and watch tv and sleep all day? NOOO, because I have to clean up my nasty house AND do the grocery shopping. Responsibility. I have far to many things to do. Being responsible stinks! :oP
I say we all rebel and take tomorrow off to do nothing!!! Who's with me? (This is were I hear the crickets chirping.)
Monday, February 18, 2008
Hair Jewelry
My 16 year old daughter has been growing her hair out for a while now. She looks a lot like an Indian with her long dark hair and her beige complexion. At the beginning of this school year she decided she would allow her hair to grow a little more and then donate a full 10 inches. She planned to wait till the summer, but when we went to get her a trim tonight she decided it was time. Watching her sit in that chair and make such a nice gesture was so wonderful. Her hair in much shorter now but it looks so cute, just like her. And someone out there will be able to use the hair she gave to feel better about themselves as well. What a great example of Love. Doing something for someone you don't even know and may never meet. A VERY cool thing to witness.
She was commenting on the silver hairs I am getting at a much more steady pace now. (After my last hair cut I wanted to go back and tell the stylist she has made a terrible mistake, because somehow she managed to cut my hair in such a way that EVERY silver hair is more noticeable.) I was feeling the pressure to cave and color my hair again until my daughter said this," You know mom, I like your silver hair. It looks like (pause) Hair Jewelry." I LOVE THAT!!!!!! Hair Jewelry, it sounds so much nicer than "old hair". ;o)
So from now on when you look in the mirror and wonder if it is time to color or pluck those silver puppies out, just remember they are all natural jewelry for your head.
She was commenting on the silver hairs I am getting at a much more steady pace now. (After my last hair cut I wanted to go back and tell the stylist she has made a terrible mistake, because somehow she managed to cut my hair in such a way that EVERY silver hair is more noticeable.) I was feeling the pressure to cave and color my hair again until my daughter said this," You know mom, I like your silver hair. It looks like (pause) Hair Jewelry." I LOVE THAT!!!!!! Hair Jewelry, it sounds so much nicer than "old hair". ;o)
So from now on when you look in the mirror and wonder if it is time to color or pluck those silver puppies out, just remember they are all natural jewelry for your head.
Sunday, February 17, 2008
Where do we go from here?
Welcome to my Blog. Sorry it took me so long to get this thing up and running but I'm slow with this computer stuff. I just leave it all to my hubby! ;o) Don't know what I would do without him!
Have a great day!
I'll write more soon.
Have a great day!
I'll write more soon.
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